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Finding Comfort in the 5 Stages of Grief: A Christian Perspective

Updated: Feb 12

Grief is an inevitable part of the human experience, and navigating its tumultuous waves can be challenging. Renowned psychiatrist, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, identified 5 stages of grief that many people go through when facing loss: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Let’s explore each stage and draw strength from the wisdom and promises found in God’s word.

  1. Denial: Denial is often the initial response to loss, a defense mechanism that shields us from harsh reality. While it's a natural part of the grieving process, it's crucial to acknowledge your denial and work through it. 

  • Comfort: 

  • Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." 

  • Psalm 23:4 “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

  • Encouragement: Even when it feels like the world is crumbling around you, remember that God promises he is with you. Seek His comfort and allow His presence to envelop you as you navigate the initial shock and disbelief.

  1. Anger: Anger is a powerful emotion that often follows denial. It's okay to feel angry, but it's essential to channel that anger in a healthy way. Channeling anger through prayer and leaning on God's grace allows for constructive release, fostering healing instead of resentment. Remember, Jesus also grieved.

  • Comfort: 

  • Ephesians 4:26-27 "Be angry and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity."

  • John 11:35 “Jesus wept.”

  • Heb 4:15-16 “For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin.Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

  • Encouragement: Anger is a natural response to loss, but the Bible encourages us to handle it with care. Take time to pray and express your honest feelings to God, allowing Him to guide you toward healing.

  1. Bargaining: During the bargaining stage, we may attempt to negotiate or make “deals” with God to reverse or alleviate the pain of loss. This phase can also be fraught with guilt and "what if" scenarios. However, Christians can find solace in trusting God's plan.

  • Comfort: 

  • Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."

  • Encouragement:  It's important to approach these negotiations with compassion for oneself and an understanding that some aspects of grief are beyond our control. Place your trust in God's divine plan. Seek His guidance and surrender your burdens to Him, knowing that He holds the ultimate plan for your life.

  1. Depression: Depression can be a heavy burden during grief, causing overwhelming sadness and a sense of hopelessness. Turning to God’s word can provide peace, encouragement, and hope during these dark moments. Remember, David often wrote in the Psalms about his struggles with being in the “depths of Sheol”. 

  • Comfort: 

  • Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit."

  • Psalm 30:5b "Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning."

  • Psalm 86:13 “For Your lovingkindness toward me is great, and You have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol.”

  • Encouragement: Even in the depths of despair, remember that God's love endures. Allow yourself to grieve, but also cling to the hope that joy will come again. God is with you in your sorrow, patiently waiting to lift you from the depths.

  1. Acceptance: Acceptance is the final stage of grief, where individuals come to terms with the reality of their loss and begin to find a “new normal”. This stage doesn't imply forgetting or minimizing the loss but signifies a willingness to move forward, integrating the experience into one's life story. Remember God's ability to bring beauty from ashes.

  • Comfort: 

  • Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."

  • Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope." 

  • Encouragement: As you reach the stage of acceptance, thank the Lord for his faithfulness and the promises in his Word. Through all this, God can bring forth strength, compassion, and a deeper understanding of His love.

Understanding the 5 stages of grief provides a framework for comprehending the emotional journey that follows loss. It's important to note that these stages are not necessarily linear but individuals may move back and forth between them. The process is unique for each person. As Christians, navigating grief requires patience, self-compassion, prayer, and faith. Even in the darkest moments, our faith in Jesus can serve as a guiding light, helping us transcend grief and eventually emerge stronger on the other side.


Listen to our Stages of Grief podcast series where we discuss the 5 stages of grief from a Christian perspective and talk about the healing journey.


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